Pilatus,
Actually, some of your coping mechanisms were probably
developed because they did work during your early years
when you had to protect and fend for yourself. However,
those same coping skills don't always serve you well later
in life. There are many great books on BPD, if that is your
diagnosis, which will help you identify behaviors that now
are causing you problems. I've learned that when I'm unhappy over people, places or things, if I can see where
I am the problem then I can make changes. If everyone
else is the problem...there is no hope for happiness.
Raging, blaming others and substance abuse are common
signs of BPD. I strongly encourage serious therapy and self-help books on the subject.
Go Get'm!
Anniego