Several years ago I began dating a girl. She took to me right away, but I quickly had doubts, and tried to break up. I really was torn up that she was torn up. And I continued the relationship for several years. Knowing that I have bipolar and take lithium, and Abilify for schizoaffective, I know my feelings can get flattened out. So for a long time I noticed one of two things happening... either I didn't want to be around her as much, or maybe my feelings were getting confused and messed up because I have a mood disorder.

I love her deeply, but I wonder if it's a friendship love and not a relationship that could go somewhere type of love. She is madly in love with me, and I try to do my best, but again, I don't know if I'm in romantic love and just can't feel it or if I'm not in romantic love with her at all.

Can I fall in love with someone romantically who I love in a friendly way?

I know it will break both of our hearts, but maybe I ought to say goodbye. What do you think?