Personally I wouldn't suggest taking time off. I had a guy I was dating do that to me once. Then when I started dating someone else he had changed his mind. Although I was still in love with him, I wasn't going to break up with this new guy over someone who was hot and cold with me. He tried to get back together with me 4 times after that and I turned him down every time. I ended up marrying the guy I dated after him.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to stay with her if it's not working out, but I wouldn't break it off or take space unless you feel more confident about it.

Another thing I hear is this is a long relationship with you. My husband and I have been together for 20 years now, and I will say we have fallen in and out of romantic love with each other. You get comfortable with a person, accustomed to having them around, and that excitement fizzles. You become roommates.

I have found when my husband and I hit this state (we have many times) we can usually bring that zing back with spending some time together, preferably doing something unusual together. I also recognize that the level of feeling I have for him fizzles with my mood. Not that I don't love him, I do, but I don't feel it like I used to.

If it's not working out, it's OK to walk away, but know if you walk away you may not be able to change your mind.