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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
I am going to have to really think about why we are who we are today. I am going to have to sincerely consider the possibility of change. My sister still needs me to be supportive and strong and so does my son. How do people decide how to be in their life? Do they find themselves as a reflection from the people who love them or is it more personal?
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my internal system of alters were how they were in their life based on what their purpose, job reason for being created was....
examples
sunny was the way she was (Happy, carefree, looking and seeing the positives rather than the negatives) because that was her job, purpose reason for being. I the host couldnt very well carry on with my life feeling happy, carefree, and positive after being raped as a small child. the best I could do on my own was shut down my emotions / feelings even the positive ones, in other words dissociate. so sunny was created to take on the role of my being happy, carefree when the situation called for that.
I did have some alters that were in your words a reflection of those that loved me, I even had alters that were as you call it a reflection of animals, tv shows, childhood game characters, my cultures iconic creatures, people and places..
line in the sand though is that each person is different therefore their internal system of alters is going to be different based on each persons own abuse, culture, ...needs in order to survive.
only you can answer to why/how/what you and your alters decided to be in your life.