I hope you succeed in reconciling with your friend, sadly i'm a bit of a disaster in this area and i also lost a really important friend because i was too wrapped up in my own problems at the time and didn't pay enough attention to my friendship. It's easy to be wise after the event but that's no good when we have already lost them. I've lost too many people in my life and would rather not lose anymore, especially the very special ones, some are just more important than others, perhaps shouldn't say that but i think it's true for most people. We all have we what you'd call mates, people that are ok to hang out with and chat about random stuff, but we also, if we are lucky, get the odd special one, the one that knows all the dark stuff about you, in my case my substance misuse history and my MH problems, this is the stuff that the casual mates know nothing about because even if they did they would not be someone you'd call when you needed help. But the friend that knows all that and is there for you when you need someone, the one that stands by you. They are worth fighting for, if you think this person matches up to that criteria then fight for them, if they are a bit of a crappy friend then it's more debatable, you'll have to think it over.

How you do it i can't really say, a lot depends on the dynamics of the friendship and how you are used to communicating. There's always the letter option as someone above mentioned, the email, text, call, i'm not sure. No relationship is easy, whether it's a romantic relationship or a close friendship they all have ups and downs, it is human nature. Then for those of us who suffer with any sort of MH issue we have that double complication of dealing with that as well which often makes dealing with other people difficult because communication gets misunderstood, feelings get hurt and all that. My closest friendships though have always been the most difficult ones, i think it's maybe because you share so much together. Friends that see all of you, the happy you, the depressed you, the you having a total breakdown. When someone lives through that with you they end up knowing you in a more intimate way then most other people will. That does create a strong bond i think. Some bonds are like bungee ropes, you can keep stretching them but somehow that person keeps springing back to you,maybe those are the ones you are meant to have. Only you can make that decision. Sorry if i have waffled on but this subject touched me because i have been in your position and know the diffculties you face. I do wish loads of luck and i hope you can tell us it all worked out well for you whatever decision you decide to make.