Yes, it might be best to wait and see what he does if I stop asking him. We both are adults living in our parents house and he has the nerve to go off at me when I ask him to help us out.

I do need to remain more calm than normal and lately that hasn't happened. I will wait to see what happens next time. My mom has trouble asking him to do things is the problem and my dad doesn't bother. I understand they need to be more responsible too. I'm even thinking on talking to my mom about becoming more assertive because what I notice is that my family likes to use accusations quite often when they speak. Words slip their mouths and I think no wonder there is quite a bit of yelling.

Thanks though. What helps a destructive person? The answer is a calm person.