Hi All,

Firstly, thanks to all the welcoming people here.
I'm very impressed with the love and goodwill overflowing here.

I have a girlfirend who is great. She has two kids and a really demanding job.

Of course she has to juggle heaps of things and can't keep everyone happy all of the time. Her main focus is her kids which is as it should be. I get on ok with the kids but find their behaviour at times confronting. I care about them but find myself pressed at times not to react negatively to their behaviour.

I also work hard and have two boys who I love more than life itself. I only see them every second weekend. But I see her kids every day unless I stay at my place(Expensive storage).

Now to the point:
Should I reasonably expect a day or couple of days a month to spoil(Maybe go away) my lady to be ok?
If she can't do this because she feels the kids are missing out( they are 4 and 9 years old. Mine are 2.5 and 5) should I feel that she has no time for me in her life?
I guess I want to know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

It's hard to take on board another persons kids to the same degree as your own. Her kids's father is not in the picture so I feel for them also. But at what point does a balance between the kids and adult relationships take place? I'm confused and need your opinions.

Steve