Hello Teen Idle-I will start by saying this: IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT-YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TAKE THE BLAME FOR SOMEONE'S ACTIONS AND ABUSE YOU EXPERIENCED. I am so sorry that you were triggered by a post. I would have been as well-I am indirectly actually. I too have struggled my entire life with taking the blame for all the abuse that happened to me as a child. I assumed that I was just bad, cursed some how, and that I deserved what happened. When someone makes a comment that is based from a blame-the-victim place I go through the same self-doubt and self-blame battle once again. What you were doing that day, what you were wearing, who you are-and all the things you have told yourself about why you must have been to blame-are not true. You have every right to walk through this world and not be attacked and not be abused. From what I have come to understand, people tend to blame the victim because they want to believe that violence and abuse isn't just random, that there had to be something the victim did to instigate what happened. It's a method people use to feel safer, to feel that they have some control or power in powerless situations. Unfortunately this method also re-traumatizes the victim of crime/abuse. This method triggers the tendency of people who were traumatized to blame themselves. I know how agonizing this thought process can be and I'm sorry that you are re-experiencing it right now, but-YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME.