Gspsy,
Hi, I just wanted to let you know that 20 yrs ago I was the person who cheated on my husband. He was a good man why I did it must have been for different reasons that to this day I still don't quite understand. But I found going to the bars and picking up different men fulfilled some kind of sexual fanasty for me. I would lay and think of things to do and go with these men. To this day I count my blessings that I never got aids. I had a child and this affected him so much.
I didn't want to leave my husband. Then I met a man that I came to care about. In the start it was just great sex. Then my husband found out and gave me a choice. I choose to leave with this man. But, then he really didn't want me cause of the way we meet.
Through the years I have changed and relized what I had done and pulled my life together. Yes I left my husband because how could you have a marriage with no trust and there was no trust because of all the lies.
My advice to you is that if you decide to stay the other woman when this man goes through the trauma of making hard decions in his life More than likely you are going to be the ONE THAT IS HURT. He is going through some emotional things that only he knows how to handle and IF by some chance he decides to leave his family there are going to be promblems that you are not going to beable to handle. There will be no trust either side .....you will know what he did to his first family and always wonder what he is up too.... and then he will not trust you, he will have these feelings of guilt and be thinking oh she is out with someone else when you are not with him. There will be fights and etc...
This just is not a good thing to be in.
I hope you think long and hard about this sitution and come to the right decison for YOU! Cause this is a no win sitution. GOOD LUCK!
Kathyp.