First thing - I think you should bring it up with your T. My BFF saw my T long before I did, and had not seen her in over a year when I started with T. Shortly after I began, my friend started seeing T again (it was brief, though) and when something came up with me and my friend, I was hesitant to bring it up to T. T reassured me that she will handle anything that she needs to herself, and that I can talk about anyone or anything I need to during my session - it will always remain confidential. That really helped me be able to open up a little more (I had only been seeing T for about a year at that time.)

Second..... I often use this with my students: Fair is not always equal and equal is not always fair. There really are few hard fast rules that apply to EVERY single person. Might there be good reason T hasn't hugged you in the past? Have you flat out asked for more hugs? Has T ever gone over with you before? (By the way, a T who regularly goes over by more than 5-10 minutes would be a HUGE red flag for me.) Could your friend be exaggerating because for whatever reason, she needs to have a "better" relationship with T than you do? or at least make you feel that way?