I don't really understand why you and your friend always need to talk about the specifics of your T. It's like the two of you are making things somehow a competition for your T's attention and affection?

Like Hope-Full said: fair is not always equal and equal isn't always fair.

If I treated all of my students equally, then they would all spend the exact same amount of time with me getting the exact same kind of help. That isn't fair because not all of my students need assistance, and they do not all need the same kind of assistance.

When I treat all of my students fairly, then those who are needing my help can get that help in the manner which they need it - for some this is just encourage, others they need help understand concepts, some need me to help them scribe, others need me to challenge them to think beyond assignments. I am treating them all fairly, but not equally - some students will end up having a lot more of my time per day. Yet, I want each of them to succeed and to feel good about trying their best.