I know that lots of men, can be, well, just real jerks! But, I also know, that there are lots of nice guys out there. I realize, that we have cultural differences, yet, I find it difficult to accept, that even in your culture, this is remotely acceptable!

"Too Loose"? You haven't actually, given birth to a 10lb+ baby, have you? And even if you have, there's always 'kegel' exercises, to help strengthen, those muscles. (I learned about kegels from a bike accident, when I was six years old).

He's abusing you, plain and simple. If he's willing to 'forgive' as he says, your 'past', telling you things like that, while making love to you, is completely inappropriate. (It's one thing, to have a night or so, of fantasy play, and he wants to treat you like he's paid for you, it's something else, entirely, what I am reading here!)

Sometimes, it's OK, to take some time, off from dating for a while, to regroup, figure out what your needs and desires are, and then, be able to tell the difference of a nice guy and an abusive jerk, before you even get into the bedroom!'