Wow that must be really hard I hope soon you find someone who can really help you understand what you may be experiencing. My long term T also refused to diagnose me she just said I had anxiety and grief. Which was true but I had depression as well.

It wasn't until this year when I went to major depression I was diagnosed by my pdoc and second T. So it definitely can take time but for you I hope you find help sooner. Good luck let us know how it goes.