I had my boyfriend (now my husband!) break up with me when we were in college. We were high school sweethearts, but he thought we should see other people since we had really only been with each other. I was crushed, but I had my dignity & wasn't going to go chasing after him or mooning over him.

I tried to enrich my life with other friends, worked hard on my studies & even dated a few other guys. I felt like no one compared to my boyfriend, but I somehow had this feeling that if we were meant to be together, we would be--kinda like a destiny thing.

Well, after a few months, he called me & wanted to see me again. He realized that we were the best for each other. By this time, I had gotten a little more independent (which was good--I was too dependent on him) & I told him I wasn't ready to get back together. I still needed to explore more & grow more.

Well, he kept calling & we just talked on the phone (I transferred to another college in another state after the breakup). After a few months of that he flew down unexpectedly & begged me to come back to him. I waited until the semester was over & transferred back to the same college as him, we got married a year later, & here we are at 32 years of marriage. That doesn't mean we don't have our ups & downs (I'm bp, how could we not?). Some of them have been severe, but we're still together.

So maybe you want to think about the destiny thing & that this might be an opportunity for your personal growth. I know it hurts, but be strong, keep your dignity & enrich your life.--Suzy