He texted me earlier today about the show and this is what I told him "I feel really bad doing this to you again but I'm having a pretty anxious day and I'm not comfortable going to the show. I've realized this morning too that I've been moving too quickly with you and while I had fun I'm not ready to be intimate with anyone yet. I don't know how much my friend told you but I have PTSD due to sexual trauma and I'm just not able to be intimate with anyone right now. It has absolutely nothing to do with you and I hope this doesn't make things weird between us but I understand if it does. I'm just in a strange place in my life right now." He responded by calling me and I didn't feel like talking so I told him I was in class and he texted me that he understood and just wanted to be there for me. I had told him earlier that if I didn't go to the concert he could have my ticket for another friend and then he texts me this "I really wanted you to be my date though. My ex won't appreciate the music... I also want to **** you". That made me furious. I tell him I can't sleep with him because I've been abused and then he says that. So I'm not giving him my ticket. Frankly I never want to see him again.
I talked with the girls who are going on the trip with us and it came out that while they still talk to him they don't really like him and didn't want him to come so I told him it was supposed to be a girls thing only and our guy friend was just coming to hang out with someone else who lives there. So I don't really have much to worry about I guess because none of our mutual friends like him anyway. He keeps texting me about the ticket but I'm just ignoring it and if he bothers me anymore at the karate classes I'm going to tell the guy who runs the dojo and I'm sure he'll put an end to that.
The sex was good and it was consensual but good sex can turn to bad sex in a millisecond when you don't trust someone and I've already learned that the hard way. I'll stick to people I feel comfortable with from now on.