I feel really torn for you. Normally, I would say closure is always a good thing. But you are understandably fragile right now. And this T behaved in such an unprofessional way that I'm not sure even a phone conversation is appropriate. I could see, maybe, a mediated meeting.

I don't have a problem with her deciding you need a more intensively contained experience;or that she was not able to provide that care; but that should have been a conversation, preferably over a few sessions, culminating in a placement or referral, as necessary. Not what sounded like an impulsive phone call termination. She was not acting in your best interests when she did that. I have no reason to believe that whatever caused her behavior has changed. And I don't know how you could not be wishing for her to apologize and say it wasn't your fault, yet I doubt she will fulfill that wish.

I really think you need support before you engage with her again or ever.