My T sparked a thought about this a few sessions ago, and reading it on here has me wondering: am I the only one who si's because it feels "right" and not as a form of punishment? My T seemed taken aback when I told her it was never really something that felt "deserved" so much as just what simply "must be"... In my head, there's no real judgement towards it. It just is what it is. It's what's "supposed" to be. Things don't feel right if I avoid si when I really need it. It's a release. It's an actuality, but never a punishment. Am I in the minority with that? Where does that stem from? I can't remember a time when I was hurt like that just because that is what was supposed to be... but there were other times that simply felt like the crap that happened in life just happened because they were supposed to... I don't know if that's making much sense. Sorry if I'm unclear. I have yet to be able to describe it well to my T also, so I don't think I communicated that correctly... kinda like a kid who gets beaten every day just because - they grow up expecting that to always happen because it has always happened... no real judgement, just acceptance. That's what si has been like for me. The judgement has always come from the outside.
anyone else feel that way?