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Old Oct 29, 2013, 03:48 AM
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Originally Posted by jacq10 View Post
You are correct, this is ideally what she is suppose to provide... but this is very different than being your mother. A mother loves you, places the needs of her children before her own (part of this is encompassed in therapy, but not to the same extent), and is a part of who you are as a person (for better or worse).

I think it's important to draw the distinction between a helpful, caring, and supportive therapeutic relationship and one that occurs naturally (i.e., does not have a formality or business-quality to it).
I don't know if I'm going to explain this very well, but I think that, while the T relationship doesn't occur "naturally", your T does need to fulfill certain needs during the therapy hour. In that time and space, your needs come first, because it's your time and your space.

So the question is: is your T fulfilling the needs you can expect to have fulfilled in that room? Listening to you, accepting you, showing you unconditional positive regard? Is your T giving you those things?
Thanks for this!
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