Adopting with a diagnosis is hard. Between the age requirements, finances, and the heart ache that foster to adopt (only option because of dx.) could cause we chose to have a child.11 yrs later it actually seems harder to adopt.

Knowing full well s/he had about a 75% chance of having an issue.

Well he was unlucky and got multiple disorders. We worked long and hard to find anyway to keep him unmediated. It came to ahead when he was 8 and medication was a must, we could not do it alone. So we got him tons of help, he's always been home schooled to reduce school/learning related issues, he's medicated and in therapy. He may go to theraputic school next year. He's 11 yrs. old and will tower over me in about 6 months. His meds are finally straightend out. I don't know how this whole puberty thing will hit him but it hit both myself and my husband hard. We are prepared as much as you can be.

My son receives medicaid based on my disability but would also receive it based on his disabilities. Our co-pays for his medication is $5 a month. All other medical bills are paid by medicaid. There are days that I feel how are we going to **** up this one (raised 2 teens in my early adulthood), or **** how's he going to even servive in this world (I hope her matures well) but I'm very glad we had him but ask me in 10 yrs.