I remember when my son's dad, i'm not with him anymore and one of the reason is because he would get pshysical with our son when he was throwing tantrums, he would just take a spanking to hard especially one time because my son spilled his beer. He spanked him so hard i decided it wasn't right, and he also was just a jerk anyway, and i couldn't take it anymore. I was also a stay at home mom, so was dependant until a counselor helped me save some money up to get out of the situation, it was pretty bad so i told her about it and we agreed it was not right for him to be soo controlling too. Get the job, i wish i had a job, i am disabled from seizures and other mental health issues, and your self confidence will probably go up too. I remember that when i did work i was always feeling alot better because i felt i had a sence of purpose too.