I loved the character 'Vassago' in the movie Hideaway. Even when his sculpture of corpses was revealed, I found it to be so sexy. For me it's about the fact that I am such a strong willed, strong minded control freak of a woman and it would take someone that powerful to control me, which is something I secretly want. On a smaller scale, I'd love DH to take control in the bedroom department and not be so submissive .