Or they say - don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff? If everything seems like a matter of life and death - it always did to me - you may be dealing with abandonment issues, because that really was life and death, and or felt like it. When you're in the middle of it, even telling yourself you can handle it doesnt work because you feel so terrible. But if you can realize where the feelings come from, maybe you can wait it out. I almost had a fit yesterday because my dr hadn't called in my prescriptions to the pharmacy, so I was going to maybe have to make a trip in the rain to get them? Poor me, what if I catch a cold. I made a pretty big catastrophe out of it pretty quick. Then I realized I had skipped breakfast and was starving and that was not helping my mood any.