Empathy. You have it, and, yes, sometimes it hurts a great deal...especially since it means sitting with emotions/experiences we cannot alter. I know I'd rather give than ask for help...and I know that is a problem at times in my life...I do find here I am especially pained by the suffering of young people...I want it to be better for them. I don't have an answer...like you said, you are learning about yourself...as we all are who continue to come here...