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Originally Posted by HourHand
I am thankful that you understand where I am coming from. You nailed it on the head. It is a huge betrayal. It is a control thing, isn't it! How could I gain a foot hold if everyone's support was gone? How kind of you to point that out. Yes, someone did point out to me that the things he used to say to me were old hat abuse lines. I just never knew it. I'd hear, "No other man would ever live with you besides me!" or "No man would ever put up with you besides me." I would buy it too!
Sigh... thanks so much. I want to heal too and I want to learn what was used against me and how.
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Yeah, I stopped buying that line of crap. Even in divorce, it fluctuated between I've slept with every person in this area, to what man would want me? It's crap. It remains crap, and it's all because of his own sense of shame, lack of self worth, and desire to ensure that he would be the only man, that I would feign interest in, because hey, if I believe that he's shamed me, verbally, in the community, then obviously, he's the only one who would be willing to accept me, eh?