Thanks everyone for your replies. fonglai I was thinking that im the only one that was in this situation. Yes this lady is my go to person if im down. My problem is that I never share what I feel. I have been burned to many times and for the first time in years i am opening up again. Someone mentioned that I sould tel myself to stop everytime I think of her but then I will be telling myself to stop the whole time. yes I do love my wife and she is a great wonderfull person. How do I go about stopping what I feel. If what i was feeling was only for a week or two by all means then it was a silly crush but i have been feeling like this for a long time and i dont know how to stop it.