There is no right or wrong to what you want (or what he wants). Don't get into an argument about what you want. If it is "not a good excuse" the response is, "No, it's not, it's not an excuse at all, it is just what I am doing next." If he thinks he can guilt you into doing what he wants, why should he stop trying to do that? If he wants to stew in his own juices, that's his decision (making something small into something big). Keep clear what you want for your life as you are living it.