Thank you both
Maybe I should clarify..... We did become good long term friends here and actually were mods together.
Hope this isn't against the guidelines, I don't think it is
but she just vanished.... She'd been badly hurt in email so didn't give her email out ...I do get that
I don't even know why I'm posting this
People come to me for advice and support but when I'm in need it feels like I'm alone ..... A nasty T said I'd "always been alone".
How the **** was that supposed to help ? Babies die if they are left alone

he was a freakin idiot. I hate him