Sorry to see you're dealing with alot of stress.

Am I to understand that Mom won't entertain an ADD/ADHD diagnosis?

It can be frustrating, as you are well aware, when we have an intuition as to our Dx and others continue to treat us for something else. It sounds like you have a good bit of self awareness working for you amid all the stress. Try not to fall prey to the "I'll show HER, I'll hurt ME" trap. Keep working with your T and see if you can't persuade them to see your symptoms for what they are.

Good luck
and Peace to you.

_Breezer