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Originally Posted by PAYNE1
Hello and welcome to Psych Central!
I am not an expert on such Internet matters, but I like the appeal of a steady income rather than having to wait (and hope) for a commission once I sell something.
As far as money and dating, I started dating seriously in my thirties and had a good job, so I told my date that I would pay my own way! (Then he would not expect any "payback" for the costs, too.)
I am thinking you could explain to your date that your money is tight and you need to be frugal--so would it be okay to go on less expensive dates? Even go to the park with a picnic, etc. I would think a woman who is really interested in you would be understanding. And, ideally, volunteer to pitch in with costs.
Ladies, would that turn you off totally? Am I the only one who likes to think about the man's finances?
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I totally 'get' frugal...I have to be, always have. But I loathe 'cheap' and there is a huge difference.
Frugal is taking a date to the park or the zoo....museum etc...something not expensive and maybe pack a lunch (depending on venue)
Cheap is taking a date to a restaurant and making faces when food is ordered, or when the tip is not forthcoming because the waitress / waiter is 'just doing their job'.
Cheap is making the date feel self-conscious
about the date and the one being dated. Frugal is being pleased to be in the company of the dated, without stress.
The difference is noticible and will ultimately lead to fewer, if any dates with a cheap person...unless the datee is equally cheap. Which should make for some interesting conversations regarding how many squares one really needs from a roll of toilet paper to do the job. But I digress.....
