He feels, that three days or more, in a marriage, when he's out travelling, is 'man cave' appropriate behavior for not at least, keeping you posted, that he's ok? I, as a woman, get 'man caves.'. Aren't you the woman, he made a commitment to, and presumably, asked to marry him? (I say, presumably, since there are instances, where women have asked men to marry them, but I digress.)

You asked, in an earlier posting, if this was just his way of controlling the situation?

Well, it's keeping you wondering. yes. You sound like you feel miserable and miss him terribly. yes.

He seems to hold a lot of power, over how you are feeling. I, personally, do not like it, when I allow myself, to allow someone else to hold power over my emotions.

Which is more painful, being single, or the way, you are feeling, right now?