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Originally Posted by Jf053013
he only wants to see his son 13 hours a week and then when he wants to come back he'll come back Crien and begging. .
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Originally Posted by PAYNE1
I'm sure you will always feel some bond toward him, since he is the father of your child. But I do think you need to consider what sort of model he would be for your son and if he is really the father and possible husband you need.  |
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Originally Posted by Jf053013
Your absolutely right but even if I leave I can't take my son away ya no ? SO that's why I'm trien to see if I can stick around until he can grow up or help him .
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13 hours is stuff, the judicial system would toss out the window, as clear evidence that he's not making a valiant effort to be a better father and provider.
I, personally find, the rhetoric out there, about kids needing a father, and the guilt mothers, like you and myself struggle with, is that we are feeling we are doing the right thing, by trying to guide the fathers to become better parents. Yet, the point, I see Payne1 as making, is that a role model of a father, would make every effort to split the time, with you, the mother, even if not together. 22 hours is considered 3% of the time with the child. 13 hours, is less than 3% of caregiver time. Math alone, is a wake up call, to me. Being told, today, that I have caregiver time of 97% was more than enlightening. I wonder, if that is what Payne1 meant?