Hi, Patagonia. I really hope you manage to not SI. I know you have reached out for help from 2 Ts and not gotten what you need. And yes, my husband didn't understand either. His response was "just don't do that anymore".

Is there something you can do like jog or take a walk to let off steam? Anything that can keep you safe, because you are right SIing just leads to shame. I haven't SIed in several years, but there are still times that make me think it is my only way to control my emotions. So I know that it is hard to not do it, but do your best. That is all anyone can ask. If you need to you can PM me. I will be glad to listen.