Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. As I said I've never participated in one of these discussion forums & it's nice to get such quick feedback.
A has always been negative (she has depression too) & her drinking has been problematic for awhile. Lately I find that she'll do or say something when she's drunk that she can't remember hours later. For example, the other day she cancelled our plans, shoved me out of her apartment door, & said, "I'll see you whenever". The next day she asked what had happened to me & why didn't I come over so we could go out? I was shocked & all I could say was "Are you joking?" According to her I made the whole incident up (I wasn't drunk...stone cold sober). It's so infuriating!!!
I think your advice about making new friends & getting out is very wise. It's just hard for me but I can't live like this much longer. Thankfully I have my cats. They bring me such great joy & are so comforting.