This is your 4th post about this bf of yours.
Nobody's guidance or insight has helped you to stop making excuses for being with him.

Have you thought about what it is you actually seek here through posting?

What I mean is, do you just want someone to listen and empathize, or do you seek any type of guidance at all?

The main reason I ask is because it seems you have not received the desired responses, so it is best to state in your post the type of feedback you require. If any.

Trust me I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you are not seeking support, then maybe starting a blog regarding your relationship instead would be more suitable for you...

This way you can let out all your frustration without receiving any undesirable feedback.

Btw, these are not just replies from women about how we "think" we should be treated by men. Some (a lot) of us ARE treated with love and respect by our bf's / husbands, that's why we know its out there.