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Hi there,
My wife cheated on me. We are not married, together for 5 years and a 2 year old boy.
Let me do a copy/paste and I'm sure you'll get the point immediately :
Why did my wife cheat on me :
to fulfill an unmet need for emotional intimacy or a desire close emotional bond
dissatisfaction with her mate
dissatisfaction with her relationship
a desire for male attention
reaffirmation of her desirability as a woman
to re-capture the feelings of romance or passion
a desire to feel special
boredom or loneliness
feelings of neglect or being taken for granted
Now, since it's my fault, what the heck should I do ? I mean clearly that opened my eyes and I don't know whether I admire this guy for giving her what I couldn't but on the other hand... I hate him. I am extremely jealous.
And she told me 'of course I did cheat on you, what did you think ?'.
OK I've been a ****, OK I understand... but do I deserve it ? How can I get over it ? Why didn't she leave me before doing this ? Should I just accept and do whatever it takes to get he back ? Because yes, I do love her. But how can I do that when I think about what happened (in our bedroom of course) ? 3 times in one night ? That she fell asleep in his arms without thinking about me for one second ? How can I get over it when she says 'I regret what you made me do, I've shown you all the signs, but I don't regret what I've done'.
That doesn't change the fact that I feel like ****... should I say 'OK you're right, I understand, thank you for opening my eyes and I'll be the good guy who treats you the way you deserve now'. Is this what one should do ?
Please help me figure this out... what would you do ?
Thank you all,
Mitch
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