Candy, in no way do I think you abandoned your child! I love my sister so much (I'm closer to her than my "real" siblings), but I must admit when her biological sister tracked her down & came to visit from Finland, I was jealous & hurt. I'M her sister. After our mother died, I raised her & told her about sex & having your period, etc. I listened when she was dumped by the fellow she thought she couldn't live without.

Anyway, birth mothers are trying to do the best by their child when they put him up for adoption. Even though my sister didn't get the best (far from it) family to be adopted into her mother & father (they were too poor to raise her; she was the youngest of 8) had the best intentions for her & I've been blessed to have her as a sister.--Suzy