I know how hard this must be for you, I have co-dependacy issues. If my BF leaves me even for a couple of hours I go into full on panic mode, i cant take it, and I turn into someone I dont want to be. I want to be ok with him being away from me. I want to not worry about him but I cant.

With kids it is so much worse I can imagin. Idk what to say other then STAY STRONG, if u sit down and tell yourself, this is just what he dose, he will be back, it could calm you down. I am not justifying what he dose, I am saying as someone who also gets " punished" I know everyone around me says leave leave leave, but I cant. I know you need support rather then me telling u to leave.