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Originally Posted by Rose76
So along comes someone who appeals to us a lot. There is a lot we share with that person. We get involved, hoping that eventually we will get on the same page about important things together. Most likely, that never happens.
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Rose, you're so right. This well-known repeating problem can be mostly resolved by finding out people's values and matching them with one's own. I have friends that don't match, and that's okay. My family members don't match, and I can live with it. My husband matches well on important stuff like highest values as well as practical stuff like money, lifestyle, children, and various odds and ends. We even share some recreation activities (which developed, hey, because our values are very similar). Feels like soulmate/twin, even though in many ways we are very different and complementary so we make a good team. Nice.
So why am I on this website? Well, I only have this one problem solved in my life. I have problems with emotions and finding a place for myself in this world, finding something worth doing.