Just finding myself confused. A male (barely an acquaintance) - mostly someone in passing - has been contacting me recently (and frequently).
So I'm wondering why? Most recently he brought up the topic of flogging and spanking, and I think that he said BDSM. Then he presented his flogging and spanking equipment, with explanation of why these activities are engaged in. This was in the context of his description of the people currently in his life - sounds like female with multiple partners, including one of his near neighbours. I realized later that - altho I listen to what he says, there is the possibility that he could be mistaken or delusional. (maybe she dumped him and now goes out with the other guy? - altho he stated that that this is the way they are connected).
Mention of someone else who had photographed female with bruises r/t this type of activity. Does anyone know more about these kinds of activities? I find myself feeling concerned and alarmed, but wanting to be nonjudgemental. During our chat, he spoke of massage, and I think that he asked me if I like massage (I said that I do not), and within this chat he spoke about poly, kinky, about he and she going out with other couples, etc. and how things do or do not progress. Probably my concerns are - is it safe for me to be around him? What does he want? Does he talk like to other people too? He seems friendly. What do these terms flogging and spanking really mean, - what are these activities really about? Is this a guy just going out and trying to use newly acquainted women? Does anyone have advice?