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Originally Posted by North_Star
How do I approach him to let him know that I am tired of constantly being accused of cheating? That he is controlling, manipulative and demanding? That he is the one driving the wedge between us and ready to lose his family if he doesn’t stop, without making him feel like he is being backed into a corner?
I would like to fix our relationship and make it stronger, rather than turning my back and walking away. So any helpful comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
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You could say, "When I am accused of cheating, etc; I feel controlled, manipulated and like there are unreasonable demands made on me. When I feel like this, I find it drives a wedge between us. I would like for our relationship to become stronger, not one that is drifting apart. What can be done, to get these accusations stopped?"
The reality is, he sounds depressed, and the job loss probably compounded everything else. What was 'teasing' before has turned more serious. Sounds like you'd like to rescue him, for the sake of the ideal of an intact family. After all, that's how we are taught to be 'good moms', ensuring that we don't drift off from the daddy's.
Until, we are able to stop taking pity and giving a misguided sense of compassion, this type of pattern will continue.