I've learned recently that I'm a textbook narcissist. I don't know who I really am, since for most of my life I was taught by my mom in particular that it was okay to lie as long as it made the family look perfect.

It hit me recently when I joined a civic organization. All of the people that volunteer there are themselves and got the confidence they have through actual hard work instead of fabrications and boasting.

I don't want to be a jackass. I want to be myself, but beyond my love of working physically hard, soccer, reading about the video game industry, and writing, I have no ****ing clue who the hell I am and how to love the hollow person I've become.

What do I do to stop being a narcissist? How do I do it? Will I always be a narcissist? When did you realize that you actually found yourself?