Hello,

Need some advice as to what to do and how to handle this situation. I got married in Dec,03. We did not have sex much before we were married. My husband wanted to set a good example for my daughter (who is 8). I admired that, it went along with our christian beliefs. We had dated for about a year and a half prior to being married.

We were very open with speaking about sex, telling each other what we liked, disliked, Fantisies, etc. I am not embarrassed by sex at all. I believe sex is VERY important in a relationship. If sex goes the relationship starts to go. I do have a very high sex drive for a woman. I've been told by every man I've been with, that I have a mans sex drive, as my husband would agree. I love sex, and orgasm with no difficulties. I tried everything to peak my husbands intrest in sex, I try to initiate it all the time. He knows I will try just about anything if I know it turns him on, That part is the pleasure for me.

One month went by, two months went by, still no sex, I confronted him about it he said it was him. We bother could stand to loose a little weight. He has had a problem with getting a hard erection. He blamed it on the weight. I did some research and I purchased a natural product that works amazingly well for him.

Still after all of this its now been two months since we had sex. I started getting suspicious about 3 weeks ago. He was moody and spreading a lot of time on the computer. I put a spy software on it. I found that he is obsessed with porn (I have no problem with a little, I think its health to have a little and share it with my partner) My husband has a foot fetish and I have even purchased things for him. When I mean obssessed, he spends at least 3-4 hrs. a day (or more when he's not working and home alone) looking at it I found out. Then I found out he is doing live chats on pay sites watching other women masterbate for him while he masterbates (I offer and do that for him, I enjoy it, its a turn on for me). I also found out he is saving pictures form these sites on to CD and has at least 10 cds full. He has admitted having a problem with this. But then he tries to turn it around on me and make me fell guilty for spying on him. I honestly did it to find out what he was doing (an affair?) and to see what he was looking at to get an idea on how to turn him on. I have even offered to give him a BJ while he looks at the pics online. He still refuses. I am at my wits end. This is the least amount of sex I have ever had in my life. I am depressed and sad. He has a woman that will do whatever he wants and still he hides.

Please Help!