How do I know if my therapists is doing what he is supposed to do? Is he supposed to start the sessions or am I. I seem to go in and vent current problems and we talk about them, but he doesn't seem to push me like I need to be pushed. He has helped me in recovery from drug addiction and he knows I am cutting but he doesn't even ask about it anymore. I'm trying to deal with my parents abuse especially my mom, but I always seem to get things started. He wanted me to do the empty chair, but I couldn't. I can't tell people how I really feel. I used to getting abused for that. Can you tell how your therapists handle these situations?