Daisy, I remember feeling that way at your age. My high school girlfriend and I graduated from the University of Maryland together and she got a good job, went to grad school and decided to get married so went out "looking" and found a wonderful husband, had kids, etc. and I just drifted along. Therapy and meeting my own husband helped me the most but now that I'm 56, looking back I see it didn't turn out quite how I felt it to be at the time. Twenty-twenty hindsight is easy but I find it also comforting. Everything came out all right even when it didn't look like it would. If I could tell my 20-30 year old self one thing and know she would believe/act on it (because I'd meet with her and she'd know I was her :-) it would be, "It will be all right" and think that would have helped me try new things and be more hopeful. The older I get the more I realize how important hope is to feeling good, and work at getting it anyway I can. I use my message now because I can look back and know that it is/will be all right so I try/risk more now and relax better. Life is more interesting and fun.