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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I'll say right upfront that I'm not a fan of IFS in general. While I think it's an interesting and valid concept in theory, I don't think it's always helpful applied to all clients. The problem that IFS creates, in a way, is this very sense of separate parts that are independent of each other. Nominally, they're all parts of the adult self, but in application, the effect is to separate them, including accepting them as separate.
Because their feelings are strong and seem to touch some unmet needs your adult self has, they persist. I'm not sure "accepting" them as is leads to their lessening. I suspect their needs need to be accepted and assigned their appropriate role by the adult self for the system to be functional.
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Thanks for your viewpoint, fkm. The idea, in IFS, IS to separate the parts and not have them blended, so we can talk about what the specific part needs and wants from the Self (or from anyone else). You're right! Then, the Self needs to put them in their appropriate roles so the whole system works. In any case, I need to discuss this more with my T so these parts stop "taking over the show", as my T used to say.
I've got to go to sleep, then no PC until Tuesday. I don't want you to think I'm not responding if you post again.