I think I agree with Perna... to say somebody is 'not endearing' doesn't mean that they are not nice ppl. It's rather a strange term to use. I don't mean to be rude with this though it might sound like it because I can't think of a more tactful way to put it, and I don't mean it to have ANY negative meaning at all, but perhaps he used 'not endearing' to say that since you have a compex personality, it takes a while for a person to get used to you and to appreciate you fully, so that their liking for you developes over time rather than immediately?