Well. I would look on meetup.com first and see what you fancy within travelling distance. I joined nolongerlonely .com but a) they don't seem to have a lot of people ( and they seem hesitant about coming forward) b) it doesn't seem very active and c) do you want to meet people with mental illness. I would try normal dating sites first ( POF say cos its free) and see how you go. Depression is so common nowadays that if two people get on it shouldn't be a biggi. Maybe just join as many clubs as you feel comfortable going to and if sex is a problem well you can always pay for it. Maybe the government should see it as a social service and subsidise it. Maybe that would make for a healthier society.