Over the year of our separation and before the divorce became final, I had often wondered if I did everything I could. We were both dealing with really tough issues. People say, “Just do your best.” How do you decide that you’ve given your best? When do you decide that your best is just not good enough? Does it mean you failed?

Therapy is the best answer...

Divorce is the worst answer...unless you become so unhealthy your self.

I had over the course of time slipped into severe depression. I could barely function myself. The depression was too much for me to handle, and I sought medical help and was hospitalized. During this process, I made the very difficult decision to leave the house.

Hoping that the separation would allow us to work on our own issues...

How do the above question sit with you now? How will they sit with you a week from now, a month from now, a year from now?