It's not fair that your husband trap you into going against your morals. I agree, you get counseling on how to deal with this in a way that doesn't lower your self-esteem and go against your morals. He is punishing you for having the affair in the first place by forcing you in to it again. Don't degrade yourself and let him deal with his moods himself. My heart goes out to you.
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