"Then, plan for a better future with your husband, if breaking your kids world, isn't part of the plan. One that is dependent on 'his moods'. "

I have been living depending on his mood for 16 years,the problem is -there comes a point when you say " what is wrong with me that you can not respect me and accept me as a personality,why I can not make decisions I like sometimes?"
He told me once "there is no "your "identity,you are married and do what I say ,because I am right"....
just hurts,numbs up.....Oh well,i guess c'est la vie,I chose it,right?